Do you tell everyone you are really happy alone but secretly crave a warm someone in your bed and next to you on the trail?
As a lifestyle coach to the rich, the famous and the not so famous, I have observed that good looks, stylish shoes lining the closests and fame or fortune is not a recipe for love. Many of the people who I work with have achieved so-called “success,” yet they still seek that special someone, the accessory to the perfect wardrobe.
According to The Washington Post, online dating is a billion dollar business; Match.com states that that one out of every five matches are made online; 20 million people have filled out the 400 questions on e-harmony. Imagine how many of these people buy a new stiletos for that first date?
People are looking for love, but are they looking in the right place? I have 6,000 seemingly well-dressed friends on Facebook and I doubt that any of them will end up being my mate.
This is a 15-20 percent decrease from our parents’ generation. What is at the root of our diminished capacity to find and maintain suitable partners? Could it be mismatched shoes?
I’ve learned that we are the costume designer, producers, directors, scriptwriters and lead actors in the personal drama that we call life.
Many years ago, after an exhausting chase up a windy trail wearing my finest rugged Asolo and patagonia jacket, following the scent of yet another unavailable mate, I collapsed. The pain was debilitating. As my friends grew weary of my tears, the invitations to call on them for support ceased. I spent a fortune seeking advice from psychics, trying to find any sliver of meaning.
It was only then that the final words of the gypsy fortune teller—a woman who offered the cheapest of readings, not even upgraded candle magic—resonated in my inner ear. She said, “You would do yourself the biggest favor by walking alone for a long, long time.” Suddenly I knew that an enormous tree had fallen across my trail, blocking the path ahead.
Even still, I did get lonely and I continued to want love.
I tried online dating. Even Match.com told me the chances of finding love with my list of specifications was less than three persent of all available prospects. I did find a date or two, but odds were not good for love. One time I traveled two hours for a dinner date, just to realize as I stepped out of the car that I was wearing mismatched shoes—another sign that my inner and outer world were not aligned. After that dinner, I decided to stop seeking other and put the focus on me.
And when you do, why not create an Oscar-worthy film—a real life extravaganza in which you’ll have the leading role and give the performance of your life.
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Renee Baribeau, the “Practical Shaman, ” is an accomplished mentor, respected business coach, dynamic spiritual teacher, speaker, and published author. Renee is well known for her no-nonsense, “tell it like it is” approach in helping others to achieve successful business practices. Her clients include entrepreneurs, CEO’s, movie producers, and celebrities.
Renee is also Director of Desert Holistic Network/Holistic Helping Hands; a growing health and wellness chamber of commerce and virtual marketing portal based in Southern California.
Possessing an entrepreneurial spirit, Renee has owned successful restaurants, catering companies, and spent ten years as a corporate executive. As a social media guru Renee teaches her business-coaching clients how to transform their dreams into a living reality. This summer Renee will be conducting private nature retreats on Whidbey Island.
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